Thursday, July 16, 2009

jealous post

cos all you peeps with a half a semblance of a brain will be at Punchi Theatre this Sunday at THIS, while I stew in solitary down south for the weekend. Tedx Colombo will be something new and brilliant in Sri Lanka and its supposed to explore thoughts on post war development, the language barrier and technology use in Sri Lanka. Cast is awesome and the crew is from BeyondBorders so you know thats gonna rock. Also I hear its supposed to have some of the best TED speeches from global TED conferences. If you want a taste of what you'll see visit www.ted.com and watch the magic or visit their youtube channel @ http://www.youtube.com/user/tedtalksdirector

Actually I hope it sux, and you all sux too :P

So what are you waiting for? GO. Register before you lose your damned seat...

http://beyondborders.wordpress.com/2009/07/15/we-are-tedx-ing-come/

http://www.beyondborders.lk/tedx/

http://twitter.com/TEDxColombo

Saturday, July 11, 2009

Spotlight

Within the spotlight,
The Lion feels a mouse while,
The mouse roars louder.

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

The Law of the Garbage Truck

Another email
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The Law of the Garbage Truck™
Copyright 2007 David J. Pollay [http://davidjpollay.typepad.com/]

How often do you let other people’s nonsense change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day? Unless you’re the Terminator, you’re probably set back on your heels. However, the mark of your success is how quickly you can refocus on what’s important in your life.

Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. And I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here’s what happened.

I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, the car skidded, the tires squealed, and at the very last moment our car stopped just one inch from the other car’s back-end.

I couldn’t believe it. But then I couldn’t believe what happened next. The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us. How do I know? Ask any New Yorker, some words in New York come with a special face. And he even threw in a one finger salute! I couldn’t believe it!

But then here’s what really blew me away. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was friendly. So, I said, “Why did you just do that!? This guy could have killed us!” And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, “The Law of the Garbage Truck™.” He said:

"Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they look for a place to dump it. And if you let them, they’ll dump it on you.
So when someone wants to dump on you, don’t take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Believe me. You’ll be happier."
So I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the street? It was then that I said, “I don’t want their garbage and I’m not going to spread it anymore.”

I began to see Garbage Trucks. Like in the movie “The Sixth Sense,” the little boy said, “I see Dead People.” Well now “I see Garbage Trucks.” I see the load they’re carrying. I see them coming to dump it. And like my taxi driver, I don’t take it personally; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on.
One of my favorite football players of all time was Walter Payton. Every day on the football field, after being tackled, he would jump up as quickly as he hit the ground. He never dwelled on a hit. Payton was ready to make the next play his best. Over the years the best players from around the world in every sport have played this way: Tiger Woods, Nadia Comaneci, Muhammad Ali, Bjorn Borg, Chris Evert, Michael Jordan, Jackie Robinson, and Pele are just some of those players. And the most inspiring leaders have lived this way: Nelson Mandela, Mother Theresa, Gandhi, and Martin Luther King.

See, Roy Baumeister, a psychology researcher from Florida State University, found in his extensive research that you remember bad things more often than good things in your life. You store the bad memories more easily, and you recall them more frequently.

So the odds are against you when a Garbage Truck comes your way. But when you follow The Law of the Garbage Truck™, you take back control of your life. You make room for the good by letting go of the bad.

The best leaders know that they have to be ready for their next meeting. The best sales people know that they have to be ready for their next client. And the best parents know that they have to be ready to welcome their children home from school with hugs and kisses, no matter how many garbage trucks they might have faced that day. All of us know that we have to be fully present, and at our best for the people we care about.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let Garbage Trucks take over their lives.

What about you? What would happen in your life, starting today, if you let more garbage trucks pass you by?

Saturday, June 20, 2009

සිංහල ආදර SMS කෙටි යෙදුම්

I got this off an email, but the credit I guess should go to the people @ nutlk.com which is displayed on the pic. Must say I didnt know most of these. අපරාදෙ, ඉස්‌සර දැනගෙන හිටියනම් වැඩක්‌ ගන්න තිබ්බ ROFL බිපෙසි

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Friday, June 12, 2009

The Best cup of Nestomalt I’ve had in my life!

I didn't put together the following,therefore its moving, well written and something you HAVE to read. I'm just spreading the word here. Do help out a worthy cause. Every contribution counts.
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“The Best cup of Nestomalt I’ve had in my life!!!”

Let alone Nestomalt, it was the best cup of anything I’ve ever drunk in my life. Honestly speaking, it was the first cup of Nestomalt I’ve ever drunk, cos’ I hate the stuff usually. Enough about me and Nestomalt, let me tell you why it was the best cup I’ve ever drunk!

I’m going to be starting with the end this time…it was approximately 7 pm and two of us were just finishing off our last distribution of some tea, sugar and “Nestomalt,” to the last ward. Once we were done, we decided to sit down and have a little chat with some of the patients and their families. We barely had any time to have a chat with anyone this time, because distribution was an absolute “logistical nightmare!” Anyway, as a direct result of a part Sinhala, part Tamil, part English and part sign language chat I had with one of the families, they discovered that we hadn’t had lunch as yet. And to make matters worse, I told them that I was “setthu poochi” (dead)! After having a good laugh possibly at my heavily accented Tamil, and also what I said, I guess, I moved to another group of patients, and as far as I was concerned, that was the end of that. That was of course until, around 10 minutes later, I get a little tap on my shoulder and a little girl hands me a little stainless steel tumbler full of piping hot Nestomalt!

I was caught so off guard that I was too overwhelmed to really say much, so I just smiled, said thank you and held it in my hands for a while. In that little while, so many thought were racing through my head. We didn’t have enough Nestomalt to give each person a packet, so we had to break them open and pour some into their individual bottles or cups. Out of that little quota we gave them, they’d made 2 cups for us! They were so affected by us not having eaten, that they felt that it was almost their duty as our “hosts” to offer us whatever they had, and considering that wasn’t a whole lot, they still took the trouble to make us a warm cuppa’. The least I could do was drink every drop of it, and boy...did I do just that! Relished every single drop in fact!

It was in the same ward that I met “Uncle” (because for some strange reason, I keep forgetting to ask names...). He had this wise, old look and a charming smile which seemed to be just brimming with stories. So before I knew it, I was sitting beside him on his mat and listening to his story... “I was a Police constable till 1981, and then went to the UK to work. I was working at the Sheraton Hotel near the Heathrow Airport for most of my stint abroad and only 2 years ago returned to Sri Lanka to visit my beloved 5 children and wife in Malavi. During my stay here, the roads were suddenly shut off and we couldn’t leave. Now, my family’s in Vavuniya and I’m here.” At which point I asked, “Have you had any news from them since you parted a month ago?” To which he answered with such conviction, “No I haven’t, but definitely God will look after us no?” I was just blown away...but, I managed to say, “Of course he will!”

Just before we left, I saw one of the patients having a hearty laugh with the young nurse in charge of the ward, as she attempted to say good-bye for the day. “Poiyta waren,” she stuttered much to the amusement and satisfaction of her “teacher!” I know it’s just one little thing, but, I’d like to think of it as a start at least.

When it was finally time for us to leave, we wound up giving our numbers to all the kids and some of the others, saying that they had to give us a call once they got back home or ever visited Colombo. We all seemed quite thrilled and excited at the prospect of having found new friends in each other. So much so, that I can’t wait to pick up my phone one day and find one of my new found buddies at the other end! Finally having to part ways, we left on the note that all of us were welcome in one another’s homes if ever we were in each others’ neighbourhoods! If that isn’t hope for a new beginning, I don’t know what is.

There were quite a few other heart wrenching moments, like when a little kid without one leg, and so being carried by her dad was brought near our trolley to get her share of “goodies,” as she was just about to leave for the camps in Vavuniya. There was something very sad and almost ominous in the way all the nurses crowded around the trolley saying, “Aney pauw, mey lamaya Vavuniyawate yawanawa dan, ithin eyata pulluwan tharam deval denna, Miss.” (“Poor little thing, she’s being sent to the camps in Vavuniya, so please give her as many things as you can, miss.”) It was almost as if Vavuniya was this dreary ‘land of no return,’ where you needed to stock up as much as possible, just in order to survive. As true or not as the stories of Vavuniya might be, we couldn’t help but feel so sad for this little girl and fear for her future. Although sheltered in her fathers’ loving arms for now, I couldn’t help but question what her future had in store for her.

Yet another moment was when one of the nurses put her hand reassuringly on the arm of another patient (who she seemed to have grown quite fond of, and was just getting ready to leave for Vavuniya with his wife) and said “Dan parrissamen gihin hondha jeevithayak gatha karranne harida? Ekai mage ekema prarthananawa oyalata.” (“Please travel safely and live a good life. That’s my only wish for you both.”)

How could I forget one of the most memorable moments of our visit, when we almost managed to willing “adopt” an adorable little baby girl who found one of my friends quite a comfortable refuge once carried, and refused to go back to her father! She actually started to cry when she was returned to him. So he took her back and then later handed her over to me, at which point we decided to take her with us on our distribution, with her father following quite good naturedly behind. When we asked her if she’d like to come home with us and her father waved “bye” to her, she waved “bye” back. We couldn’t believe our eyes! I guess children don’t see through the same eyes as adults. How I wish we could all be like children!

The cards and novels were a huge hit as by the end of the day, many of the novels had been completed and intense card games had begun!

Amidst all this hope though, there was one rather depressing sight of this girl (who was asleep during our entire stay there,) asleep on the floor - flies setting on her face. “She has lost her mind and is all alone. Nobody knows where her family is. All she does is sleep. She doesn’t eat, she doesn’t bathe, she doesn’t change her clothes, she doesn’t speak, all she does is sleep all day,” said the elderly couple occupying the bed alongside her. How do you come to terms with a story like that? Where do you even start?

And then last but hardly least, there was precious little 2 week year old Arjun who had been born at the hospital. Cradled in his dad’s arms, he just lay there with his eyes peacefully shut, seemingly without a care in the world. Looking down on this tiny little miracle, all I could wish for with all my heart, was that he gets to grow up in a world where war, hatred, pain and suffering are only heard of in story books.

A friend of mine often questions my abundance of hope...“Arjun” is why I hope...



General Hospital - Polonnaruwa - Need List - 1108 Patients

Sanitary Napkins
250g Pax Anchor Full Cream Milk Powder
250g Pax Tea
250g Pax Sugar
250g Pax Nestomalt
Biscuits – Horlicks/Marie
Assortment of toys/card packs/board games/Tamil novels
Crutches

PLEASE BE MINDFUL OF THE GRAMMAGE GIVEN OF THE GOODS ABOVE GUYS, AS ONLY THEN CAN WE GIVE THE ITEMS ON A PER FAMILY BASIS.


Clothes Breakdown

Male & female underwear (S, M & L)
Bras (32, 34, 36 A,B,C, D)
Underskirts (free size)
Baniyans/vests (free size)
Sarongs
Short sleeved t-shirts and shirts (S, M & L)
Long/ ¾ Skirts (S, M & L)
Blouses (S, M & L)
House coats/kaftans/bed jackets (free size)
Shorts/3/4 shorts (S&M)
Sarees
Infant, baby and toddler clothes (unisex)
Children’s clothes – A-line dresses, t-shirts, skirts & blouses/skinnies (S&M)


THEY DON'T WEAR TROUSERS AND LONG SLEEVED SHIRTS OR BLOUSES COS OF INJURIES etc., PLEASE BE MINDFUL OF THE CLOTHES YOU DONATE GUYS, WE DON'T TAKE ANYTHING STAINED OR TORN SO, PLEASE DON'T GIVE US ANY CLOTHES THAT ARE NOT IN A DECENT CONDITION. ALSO, PLEASE GET STUFF ON THIS CLOTHES LIST COS' THEY CAN'T MAKE USE OF ANYTHING ELSE K? THANKS SO MUCH!


AND AS ALWAYS IF ANYONE CAN SORT OUT/HELP US OUT WITH TRANSPORT, THAT WOULD BE GREAT!

The drop off point is at 19 1/1 Siri Dhamma Road, Colombo 10. Please call Kanishka on 0712-799920 before you make a drop off k? He'll do the needful.

Thanks so much once again for all your support

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

I song I love: උඩඟු ලියන් ගොතා බඳින

With patriotism everywhere in Sri Lanka these days, its also the most prominent theme on most radio stations. To be perfectly honest its actually a bit of a relief from the wannabe hip-hoppers and the wailing love songs. Still it takes a unique combination of lyrics, voice and music to make it just right.

This song is something that I think is really special, because the concept in the lyrics is unique and quite out of the box. Its the story of a patriotic flower speaking out. Take a listen. (I added my own English translation/interpretatation at the end because to me the lyrics in the video has lost a bit too much in the translation.)

The song is sung by Nanda Malini & sad to say I am not definitely sure who the lyricist or the musician is. If you do please do share in the comments




උඩඟු ලියන් ගොතා බඳින - නීල වරල සරසන්නට
මා පිපුණේ නැත - මේ දෙරණේ

හිස් මිනිසුන් - කුස් පුරවන - සිත් පිනවන - බස් දොඩවන
බොජුන් මේස මත - සුවඳ හමන්නට
මා පිපුණේ නැත - මේ දෙරණේ

රට වෙනුවෙන් සටන‍ට වැද දිවි දුන්
රණ විරුවකුගේ අවසන් ගමනට
යන මහ ජනතා පා දූවිලිලෙන්
තැලී පෙලී සැනැහී මිය යන්නෙමි

මගේ පරම පැතුම එයයි
මගේ පරම පැතුම එයයි
මගේ පරම පැතුම එයයි
එමගට මා විසි කරන්න




I didnt bloom on this land just to decorate the braided hair of vain women

I didnt bloom on this land just to perfume dinner tables
where empty men fill their empty bellies and make merry with empty talk

I would rather die, crushed by the dusty feet of the people
That came to the final journey of a fallen soldier

That is my greatest wish
That is my greatest wish
That is my greatest wish
Throw me on to their path
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Monday, May 11, 2009

20-something

Confuse akkittangalaImage by b3ni via Flickr

The following is something that was sent to my email from a valued nutcase of a friend who shall be called 'Raven' for the sake of privacy. I have no idea who the original author is & since its an email, most probably everyone has seen it. But in case they havent, it deserves a wider audience. Its something I relate to (& wish I'd written :) ) & also something that most 20-somethings would relate to as well.

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It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. You want to settle down for good because now all of a sudden that becomes top priority. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You begin to think a companion for life is better than a hundred in the shack and for once you would not mind standing tall for that special someone which otherwise you had never thought of until now.You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it.We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

We call it the "Quarter-life Crisis"
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